Was it lifting up your beautiful bundle of joy or was it leaning over to pick out your favourite golf club?
Perhaps it was like me, just doing an ordinary chore and there it was - the realisation that my bladder had taken control of my life.
That sounds so dramatic doesn't it (drama queen!) but the sincere truth is that when the first 'oops' moment happened to me I was crushed.
I can vividly remember one of my first 'oops' moments... I was standing in the queue at the supermarket and I leant over to lift a bag of potatoes out of the trolley to put on the counter at the checkout when...'oops!'
It was a weird moment in time, when everything just seemed to stop, and I knew that my body had turned a serious corner in its journey of recovery from mini strokes, caused by a series of hemiplegic migraines.
It was an absolutely awful moment, an awkward moment, with the checkout operator looking concerned and asking me if everything was alright. My face told it all I think, although there was no visible outward sign of the 'oops' moment and I had dark trousers on - thank God. I felt embarrassed (of course then a well timed hot flush happened!) and just wanted to get out of the store as quickly as humanly possible.
If I could have, I would have left my trolley there and just gone home. As it was, I had people lined up behind me and the express checkout lane full of people beside me. So, I did what us women are very good at and faked a smile while trying to keep my thighs tightly together and somehow made my way out of the main doors and down the long corridor (I felt like that little costume lady in the Incredibles kids movie - taking tiny little steps) and eventually made it to the restroom, fighting back the tears.
Does that ring a bell with you?
Are you saying "Tess...I hear you" and can you remember your first oops moment?
Isn't it awful...that moment when you realise you just can't hold on, especially when it's something so simple as picking up an object or a little cough or sneeze.
Well, thankfully, the day I experienced my first public 'oops' there was no-one around in the restroom so I tidied up as best I could and finished my shopping.
Little did I know that on that eventful day my life had forever changed and as I pushed my trolley out to the car, I just wanted the ground to swallow me up and be done with this whole awful ill health chapter which seemed to have no end.
So, how did my life change so much in the space of a few minutes?
How did I suddenly find myself suffering ill health in the middle of the supermarket?
It took years.
Years of neglect of my own health, years of looking after everyone else in my life and years of forgetting about me in the care mix.
And, here's the revelation for you too - I would think that it's pretty much the same for you, that incontinence didn't just appear overnight. I'm convinced that in the majority of cases, urinary incontinence is caused through neglect of you. Ouch!
Of course there are conditions where women are suffering incontinence due to physiological reasons and physical conditions, but you and I do not fall into that category. You and I have the opportunity to take back our bladder control.
How do you do that?
The first thing you do is become your own best friend.
Put your needs back at the top of your care life and you will soon learn about the state of your health and why you're suffering poor health.
To help you along, you can also learn how to stop the incontinence urge in its tracks with my unique Dry Swan exercise.
You see, I have learnt the hard way that it takes years of poor dietary choices - and there's no finger-pointing here. There are all sorts of reasons why we find ourselves in poor health but one of them is stress and lack of time. It's just easier to buy processed and ready-made food when you're working 11 hour days. That's what I did.
It took me years to claw back my good health and the need to stop and assess why I was experiencing urinary incontinence and now it's awesome to be able to share what I've discovered with you, so you don't have to spend years trying to figure it all out.
So, the balance has now returned to my life - and I am centre stage of the nurturing and caring. The amazing thing is I have more love and care to give than ever!
What about you? When was the last time you took a good look at:
This is serious and urinary incontinence is a very clear signal to you that something is very wrong with your overall health. Only you can figure out what that is, and I'm here to help you do that.
You know deep down in your heart that you have neglected you and you may be the most loving person on the face of this earth but you have to remember that the first person who needs to be loved is you!
Let's face it, as mums, wives, friends, work colleagues, we do burn the candle at both ends but we're doing such a disservice to everyone when we do that. Our family and friends want to see us well and healthy and that takes some 'me' time so it will require breaking a few habits.
One of those habits is saying 'yes' when someone asks for a favour. Try this instead..."You know what, I will need to check my timetable and get back to you." Then take the time to assess your needs, along with those of others, especially if the requests are coming from your 'negative nellie' friend or family member.
You see, what I've discovered is that our family and friends will take what we're prepared to give. It's not their fault if our give-gauge is out of whack!
And it's not their fault if we allow them to position our boundaries.
So, check your give-gauge and make sure that you're giving to you as well as to others. An example of the best giver EVER, Jesus, had to spend time meditating on his own frequently to fill himself up before he gave to others.
We need to do the same - look after ourselves so we can be there for others.
And it's such a freeing, awesome, delicious feeling when you regain your health, re-set your boundaries and re-surface!
My new eBook 'Take Back Your Bladder Control' shares my unique exercise that has given me control over the urge - in fact it smashes that urge to bits - so I can decide when I use the toilet. It's an exercise that as you practise it, you will be able to re-train your bladder and extend the time between toilet visits.
Woohoo! I've broken out of the incontinence jail and I'm ready to shout from the rooftops how you can too.
In my eBook 'Take Back Your Bladder Control' you're going to learn how to not only regain control of your bladder but how to set yourself up to enjoy a full and awesome life in good health, with no more 'oops' moments.
Strengthening your bladder to extend the interval between toilet visits gives you precious time to get where you need to 'go' and say goodbye to those feelings of sheer panic when away from home and not near a bathroom or toilet.
I can't promise that I can solve your health issues, but I can promise this - I will be there to support you every step of the way, as much as humanly possible and in line with my own give-gauge!
Now, it's breakthrough time! You don't have to put up with this condition.
You don't have to put up with your bladder keeping you prisoner.
Take action today - get your pdf copy of 'Take Back Your Bladder Control' now!
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